
There are obviously countless articles out there about the “strange” custom of tipping in the United States. From an American’s perspective, tipping is the custom because waiters and their peers don’t make a living wage. It’s normal, accepted, and everyone from the U.S. understands how the system “works.” I’m not going to get into that, because it’s not the focus of my rant today. But anyway, the same goes for sales tax, and on down the line.
I read yet another article the other day that mentioned the tipping issue, in a story that looked at the quirky intricacies of English-language guidebooks made for those who are visiting America. Angela and I started talking about it, and once again became a bit irate at how it all goes down over there. I’m not trying to write a groundbreaking article or anything; but it’s on my mind, so it’s getting posted here.
Before I continue: We’re both born and raised in the U.S., and fancy ourselves as big tippers. In the States, we tipped everywhere. Big tips at restaurants, tips at our favorite coffee shop, tips to valets, tips to food delivery folks – if it was customary to tip, we tipped. Big time. This was the case especially at restaurants or shops we frequented, where the wait staff knew us by name and the service came with perks that your average customer never got. Tipping 30% or more was not uncommon at places we loved to go. (Then again, we would never frequent establishments that lacked friendly staff, so it was definitely a circle of sincerity.) We’re not ballers by any means, but we do appreciate a good meal, and appreciate sincere service even more.
Now that the whole tipping thing is out of the way, I want to focus more on the question at hand: How can you possibly know how much anything costs in the States? It’s truly amazing when you think about it. Beyond tipping, you have sales tax. And sales tax is not only different in every city, county, and state, but you have different tax rates for different things. Food is taxed one way, liquor another, forty-two different taxes and fees on your mobile phone bill, hotels another, sundries for the home yet another way, the list is virtually endless.

So you have $20 to spend at the grocery store? Awesome, $20 in groceries! Right? Nah, I don’t think so. You should probably keep it to $15, because it’ll end up being around $20 by the time you actually pay for it. And don’t forget the parking you might have paid for, or the meter you didn’t have change for and proceeded to get a ticket for. Go ahead and tack on more costs to all that. (I’ll save the driving issue for another post someday.)
Don’t bother trying to figure it out either; as I mentioned a couple paragraphs back, everything is taxed differently, and differently even more so if you’re in one town or another, one county but a different town, a different town but the same county. I’m telling you, it’s not worth your sanity.
And that coffee at Starbucks that’s already expensive at $3.50? Not so much. It’ll be nearly $4.00 by the time you actually pay. And don’t forget to tip!
That $8.95 burger at the bar and those shoes that are finally on sale for $49.99 at Foot Locker…they’re all going to cost you more. The former will cost you tax plus tip. The latter, just tax plus partial blindness from all the employees in referee stripes.
In fact, there is only one thing I can think of that actually costs what it says it will. Outside of newspapers or magazines, but let’s be real: Nobody reads those anymore. (I’m talking on a daily basis as well, not all-inclusive monthly rent and things of that nature.)

What is that one thing? Gasoline. And guess what? It’s priced by the tenth of a cent! Gas is not $4.50/gallon. It’s $4.509 a gallon. Or whatever the price may be on that one hour of that one day, because it changes constantly. Good luck trying to add that up. Pretty much everyone who owns a car in the States doesn’t calculate price anyway. It’s more about filling up the tank. But since 99% of America can’t really afford to do that anymore, it’s more about saying, “Can I please have $10 (worth of gas) on pump number three?” It also used to be priced differently if you were paying cash versus using a card, but I have no idea if that’s still the case. After all, when we lived in America, we always used a card, and always filled up the tank when we could. Usually during a short hop across the border to a neighboring state that had cheaper gasoline and lower taxes.
When you live in the U.S. – born and bred and it’s part of your daily life – you don’t even think about things like this. It’s just how it is. You vaguely calculate how much the groceries in your cart will be, and you assume your $15 meal at the pizza place will cost you $20 or more.
And oh man, that is all so f*cked up!
After our little ranty dialogue last night, we proceeded to be giddy with excitement – yet again – at how things actually cost what they say they’ll cost when you live or travel somewhere else. Yes, there are taxes. Loads of taxes. (Pro or con, taxes can be another article.) But guess what? They’re all included in the price!
Everywhere has sales tax. Well, almost everywhere. But fortunately for everywhere other than the U.S., these kinds of surcharges are already tallied into prices and bills and whatever you’re paying for. If you want to know the (high) tax rates you’re paying when you’re in Germany or somewhere else, just look at the receipt. It’s back-calculated for your reading pleasure.
That €25 T-shirt is going to cost you €25. That chicken at the store, on sale for €5.50? Yes, it will cost you €5.50 when you get to the checkout counter. The beer at your local bodega, the meal at the Asian noodle spot down the street, the pack of smokes at the corner store, the toothpaste at the drug store: They will all cost you what they say they will cost you. Taxes are included, and you can bet that the €20 you went to the grocery store with is actually going to get you €20 worth of food.

Even though wait staff and other service professionals actually earn a real, accountable living wage in many other countries, tipping is more customary than it used to be. And I will gladly put most of this phenomenon on the shoulders of American customs and tourism. But it’s never 15% here, or 20% there. It’s always a few Euro here, maybe 10% if you had good service there, rounding up over there, etc. As mentioned before, tipping doesn’t bother me. I just like to know what I have to pay, and what I can choose to pay. And I’ve never had an easier time with that, than when I’m outside of the U.S.
After all, these are trying times for many people. Especially in America. Wouldn’t it be great if you actually knew what daily life would cost you, and what you could truly afford, instead of vaguely, kind of knowing, on no certain terms, a hazy ballpark amount that you might be asked to pay at any given establishment? Yeah, I would as well.
What’s your take? Do you like the all-inclusive deals so you know what you’re paying, even if it’s higher? Or do you prefer that price tags look cheap before your daily life’s surcharge is tacked on? Share your love and hate in the comments – we’d love to hear from you.
I think one of the most telling things for me was taxes, absolutely. I did a video a few months back for YouTube along with an associated post on how to save $5,000 a year on your grocery bill, simply by living in another country. And that’s for a single individual. You can save $10,000 a year as a couple and upwards of $15,000 a year as a family, simply by living in a place like Bulgaria or Mexico where the cost of food is pennies in comparison.
And gas prices? Yeah…I’ve covered that one in the past as well. Americans in the U.S. have some of the *lowest* gas prices in the world, but it’s still taxed to hell and back…and consequently it’s the reason why public transportation rocks outside of the U.S….nobody wants to drive so they all use public transportation, and the governments provide quality options for the people.
As far as tipping goes, it’s pretty much 10% just about everywhere you go, and nonexistent in some countries. The U.S. is the only country where it’s considered mandatory. In Bulgaria…uh-uh. Tipping is only done on rare occasions, and even then only if it’s a large party and it’s never more than 10%. I had a huge argument with an old high school friend of mine that waitresses back in the U.S. about a year ago on Facebook and she pretty much de-friended me for life when I told her that if she doesn’t like the wages her jobs pay her she should quit and find a new one…because I’m not going to tip $5 just because a waitress brought me a couple of beers in a 30 minute period of time. It is *NOT* my responsibility to pay her a fare wage. If waiters want fare wages in the U.S., get the employers to do so.
I remember in Colorado when the 22% tipping thing was starting to become popular, and my co-workers and I left a 13% tip on a 30 dollar tab. We had burgers and fries, a couple of drinks, and we were in and out in about 30 minutes. We didn’t calculate, we all just chucked in our spare change and figured it was roughly 15% and made our way out of the restaurant. The girl followed us out onto the street and called us ass-holes in front of a whole group of people because we didn’t tip her 20% or more, and I fired back that if she didn’t like her job to complain to her boss…then promptly went back in, found the manager and got her ass fired. Seriously…as a customer it is NOT my responsibility to ensure you have a fair wage. So yeah…rant on this another day :)
Pretty much every country I’ve ever been to does as you describe: they include all the totals on the bill so there’s no hidden charges. What the menu tells you is what the price is. And then it’s all broken down for you.
I appreciate the Mexican way of doing things. Tipping is a large part of the culture here, but it is in no way mandatory. It’s just a way of saying thanks. You tip the grocery baggers, the guys who help wave you into/out of a parking spot, the guys who flag down traffic so you can cross the street, the laundry ladies for cleaning your clothes, your maid for doing a good job….you tip everyone. It’s usually about 10%. 15% is generous, and 20% is gratuitous.
One of my best friends in Bulgaria ended up being my pizza delivery guy because people don’t tip in Bulgaria. It’s not part of the custom. But I would always tip them 3-5 leva (2 bucks or so) for delivering food to the house, and same at restaurants. We watched a guy actually fight with another waiter one time at one of our regular spots because the knew we were tippers.
But, consequently, when I was back in the States in 2010 I went out to Old Chicago’s with my sister for a pizza. We had water. The waitress came to our table ONE time for the order, one time to deliver, and one time with the check. It was 30 bucks for a pizza and water. She maybe put 3 minutes, perhaps 5 at max, into serving our table. The service wasn’t that great; I would call it standard. I threw down 3 bucks as a tip, and my sister proceeded to UNLEASH holy hell on me about what an ass I was for only leaving 10% of a tip, and I proceeded to give her the Reservoir Dogs argument that I’ve always used over the years: I’m not going to tip simply because it’s obligatory. If all you do is serve me my food, I’ll leave a 5-10% as a way of saying “thanks”, but if you want 15-20% or more, you better flash me some skin, give me your #, flirt with me, make me feel like the most important client in the restaurant, check on my table every 3-5 minutes, and basically do everything short of give me hummer to make me feel important.
If all you do is show up, serve the food and still expect 15-20% or more….you got another thing coming.
Well, okay then. You clearly have very strong opinions on tipping haha. If a server is an asshole, I’m going to make them well aware of how I feel. Of course, none of this would be an issue if they made a living wage. There are pluses and minuses to both. Pay them properly, and they can act however they feel. Don’t pay them properly, and they’re forced to be nice. Not sure which is better or worse.
One thing I forgot to add to my already-long post was about a girl I knew in college. She was from Australia, and waited tables at Planet Hollywood (in Sydney, I believe). She loved it because not only did she make a decent wage – $16 AUD / hour in the mid-90s as a waitress – but all the clientele were American tourists, tipping like crazy. She said her hourly wage came out to like $25 AUD / hour.
My issue is less about tipping and more about sales tax. That shit is just aggravating. Add it in, already! I can go to the grocer here and know exactly how much I’m going to pay every time I add an item to my cart. Same goes for shops, restaurants, etc.
Of course, Americans have a twisted sense of taxes altogether, but that’s another long-winded issue for another time.
As always, thanks for the insight and the comment!
Has this topic come into our weekly Kaffeeklatsch? I can’t recall. Great piece -and as usual- it’s refreshing to hear others thinking and saying things that are so obvious but so seldom spoken.
After almost 12 years living outside the US it’s always a mild shock for me when I’m visiting there and go out shopping and eating. I constantly forget about the sales tax, fat tips and extra charges. I’m so used to the transparent pricing in Germany (and just about all of Europe and a lot of Asia, based on my travels).
My concern is… isn’t this model bound to move across the Atlantic? Perhaps Berlin is a skewed example, but I’ve seen a dramatic increase in tipping — and the expectation of a “good” tip, and not just from tourists. More and more places put on their receipts “Tip is not included” (Usually in English!) and I have to wonder if it’s just to gouge the tourists or if the Germans really are doing more than just a small round up of the bill. Residents certainly seem (expected to) tip larger these days. I don’t know if this is happening in France, Italy, Spain, etc.
Just for the record, I love good service. I seek it out and commend it. And I enjoy giving extra for extra service. It’s mediocrity I don’t want to reward, or be expected to praise, whether with superficial words or pocket change. I think we’re totally on the same page there.
Haha, Kaffeeklatsch. You’d think we were a Prenzlauer Berg Muttiverein.
I do think it’s happening more and more in Europe, and as I said before, I believe it’s due to tourism and so much interconnectivity. I personally think it sucks, but I would also like to know how much the average wage is at a restaurant here. I’ve never asked, and you’d probably have a better idea of that than me.
I don’t ever remember seeing that tip note in English in France or Spain or anywhere else, but I do vaguely remember seeing more and more restaurant bills in France that tell you the same in French. I stand by what I’ve always done abroad though, maybe rounding up or 10%. If the service is out of this world, I’ll go higher. But come on, this is Germany haha.
We’ve had plenty of cold service here, but we’ve also had some really nice and friendly service.
Thanks for the comment!